Good sh*t | February 2025
Galentine's Day gifts for yourself, my Abs, Asana, and Affirmations workshop, and (A LOT OF) reading about sex
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Kind of gross that most of the Valentine’s Day shopping guides out there on the internet this month cater mostly to performing for the male gaze….buttttt sometimes I am no better than a man (🤷♀️) and a slutty little outfit and unnecessary beauty treatments are exactly what YOU want too:
This leather Bluebella bra, open brief, choker, and handcuffs set is Valentine-y without being cheesy (and so, SO hot).
One of my long time pilates clients/friends with flawless skin devotee told me this 111Skin Cryo Depuffing sheet mask is life changing (and she meant that earnestly)— def pricy for a lone sheet mask but if you forgo getting an actual facial and an actual salon then it’s actually free? That’s how math works!
In other luxurious skincare must haves- Korres sent me a few bottles of this Santorini Grape Velvet Skin Drink and my dry winter skin has been drinking it up (ba dum dum)— code HELEN gives ya 20% off if you buy from the Korres site.
The price of a gel mani in Brooklyn right now is actually insulting, so, I took it upon myself to figure out how to do it myself and have been loving the Olive & June Gel Mani System— again, an upfront splurge but then you’re basically making money…again…that’s how math works, guys.
If you know me IRL you know I can’t stfu about Dipsea Stories
And last but not least, on the topic of self-love, I’ve become a *meditation girlie* this year (it’s been a month, lol) and Open is by far the most aesthetic design forward app option out there which you wouldn’t think was super important, but trust me, it makes you wanna use the app which is crucial.
After much overwhelmed deliberation about which red light mask was the best, I followed the recc of my friend Laura Girard who has has the TheraFace LED Light Therapy Mask since Sept 2023 and stays obsessed. Catch me looking like a serial killer/slug cuddled up at home in the dark in my HeatHealer Infrared Sauna Blanket wearing this mask as I doomscroll TikTok.
Lastly, it’s not Valentine’s Day unless you or someone hot buys you jewelry— I just added the Catbird Hang In There Kitten Charm to my charm necklace to celebrate my growth this past year and the adoption of my cat/roommate, Brigid.
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‘Tis the season to either feel very cynical and grumpy about the commercialism of Valentine’s Day OOOR just say f*ck it and lean into your inner lover girl and just have a good time with it, partnered or not.
Post-divorce, I basically have created my own master’s program on not letting a man dictate your self worth, self confidence, or sensuality, so, thought I’d share the love (pun very intended):
Come As You Are & Come As You Are Workbook by Sarah Nagoski
The Sex You Want by Rena Martine
Sacred Sex by Gabriela Herstik
Want by Gillian Anderson (yes, Scully!)
Pussy: A Reclamation by Regena Thumashauer
Becoming Cliterate by Laurie Mintz
Tell Me What You Want: A Therapist and Her Clients Explore Our 12 Deepest Desires by Charlotte Fox Weber
Girls Can Kiss Now by Jill Gutowitz
Greedy: Notes From A Bisexual Who Wants Too Much by Jen Winston
Bi: The Hidden Culture, History, and Science of Bisexuality by Julia Shaw
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If you need some inspiration from women who just EMANATE self confidence and power, I highly recommend studying the following videos very closely— I can’t stop:
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Be your own best lovah this Valentine’s Day weekend with a 75 minute Zoom master class with @lulusoni and myself Saturday 2/15 at 10am EST!
Fire up your core and pelvic floor (😉) through athletic and creative pilates sequencing, get your waters moving (😉😉) through intuitive yoga flow & unblock the essence of your 💗 through breathwork & meditation (but we still HIGHLYYYY recc keep your ex blocked…just saying!!!).
This master class is for EVERY body of any level or experience to get a little sweaty, burn off some stress, and treat yourself with the love and affection you deserve, honeys! Can’t make it live? No sweat (not until you take class, at least) — the recording will be sent to all sign ups and will be available for 30 days.
Psst! We’re flowing for a good cause: 15% of proceeds will be donated @thelovelandfoundation Therapy Fund for Black Women and Girls.
Aaaand just for fun, I was feeling crafty and made a vision board for the workshop Lulu and I are hosting (video version here) but if you are also manifesting self love and pleasure and confidence, you can save the image below to make your phone wallpaper :)
xx,
Helen